Hi everyone! Sorry for the lack of a post yesterday, life is crazy busy at the moment as I've now got less than two weeks left until I finish work! EEK. If you read the last in my Tuesday Tales series (Ten Tips for Long Distance Relationships - HERE) you'll know where my head is at currently... I am fast approaching the end of my long distance relationship and I am pondering my relationships and how I've managed to survive three LDRs!
This week I thought it would be a nice idea to share what I think are five of the positives and five of the negatives of being in a long distance relationship. I may not be the best judge of this as I've not been in a non-long distance relationship for nine years.. but here goes anyway!
1) Not getting to see them every day keeps your relationship fresh and exciting, and you'll almost always have something to talk about.
2) You will (most likely) argue less than couples who see each other often, because you won't want to waste your previous time together!
3) There are so many different ways of keeping in touch these days it's actually quite fun being able to contact each other using Pair, Skype etc!
4) The time that you do spend together will be incredibly special and mean more.
5) You get to know them very well quite quickly - bear with me on this one as it may not be immediately obvious, but when you are in the early stages of a relationship you don't usually see that person all day every day for a few days in a row. But in most long distance relationships the only way you see each other is usually by staying at each other's places, so you learn a lot about them much quicker than if you are casually 'dating' or have a less intense relationship because you live closer to each other.
1) The cost of travel (even my same-country, merely 200 mile relationship costs upwards of £150 per month... ouch!)
2) Not feeling 'at home' anywhere - maybe it's just me but having to travel to see the person I love means I don't really put down roots anywhere, which makes me sad.
3) Seeing other couples and feeling raw, passionate envy. IT SUCKS.
4) Missing out on plans with your friends because you have to go to see your boyfriend/girlfriend for the weekend (it's kind of a no-brainer at the time but it makes it much trickier to form deep, lasting friendships when you can't commit to one out of every two weekends).
5) MISSING THEM.
Thank you to the lovely girls who commented on my last post about long distance relationships - have you been in one? What are the things you hate/love about it the most?